Divide and Conquer
Why politics and religion has increasingly driven larger wedges between us, and how we could begin to mend the divide
Why do facts and differences of opinion sometimes ruin relationships? Here’s what I think…
EGO:
No one wants to be wrong, and it’s embarrassing to be proven wrong in a public setting—especially after displaying a strong emotional attachment to your beliefs. At times adherence to ideology is more important to someone than what’s right or wrong.
People’s identity or sense of self can at times be largely dependent on their beliefs (whether religious or ideological), and challenging them is then perceived as a direct attack on their identity, or sense of self.
Simply an intolerance for people with different points of view or lifestyles can also be the catalyst for relationship-ending events. (Not much you can do)
So… How do you avoid being this person?
Here’s what I suggest from my experiences in co-running an all opinions political group on Facebook for 3.5 years 😅
Separate the individual from the individual’s opinions and beliefs. (It’s not always easy)
Continually remind yourself—take it as far as publicly admitting—that you have been, will be, and are most likely WRONG about a lot of things. Then consider—from a place of compassion and understanding—that the other person is no different from you in this regard.
Remember that you live a vastly different life with different challenges, advantages, and experiences than the majority of people. Humanizing your “enemy” is the only path towards unity.
Actually listen to those who challenge your preconceptions, and take criticism in stride. It’s good practice, in my opinion, as it trains you to be less “reactive” and more objective when communicating with people who you disagree with—repeat back to them what they said, showing an understanding of their ideas, before you counter them with your own.
Take into consideration the ideal that a democratic society will only thrive given that diversity of thought and opinion is allowed to flourish, and that we must actually listen to our perceived “opponents” as there is likely legitimacy behind their grievances. (This is essential to crafting effective and long lasting solutions to issues that will yield the best results for all parties involved)
And lastly...
Remember that our flag is a symbol that is supposed to unite us in the face of trials and tribulations; one that represents the sacrifices made by those before us, who’s intent was to ensure the rights and sovereignty of those that proceeded them. It represents the ideal that despite our differences, we as a nation of diversity should and must unite under a common cause for the betterment of our communities, and our nation as a whole—and that everyone is afforded the EXACT SAME rights under the Constitution.
Your fellow American is (most likely) NOT your enemy, no matter how convincing the corporate press, or some paid off politician is. Division WILL be the downfall of everyone and everything we hold dear. And to be frank… it’s entirely up to us to decide if that’s how we want to move forward.
We gotta try.
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